His life took a turn when he married popular comedian Princess, the
courtship and marriage lasted for barely 6 months while the marriage
itself lasted for only 6 weeks. According to him, he became an object of
ridicule and hardly stepped out of his house, because his friends,
family and colleagues never supported his choice of bride, but he
thought the marriage will work. He was labelled, a gold digger who was
hungry for fame and wanted to use Princess to achieve all that.
Jeremiah in this his first major interview after the marriage breakup with City People team, WALE LAWAL, the Editor, Tayo FAJORIN OYEDIJI, Society Editor and BIODUN ALAO Senior Showbiz Reporter. He talked extensively on what really happened in the marriage that many people don’t know about, how he worked extra to make the marriage work, and real reason, his marriage to Princess broke up, right before it even started. Below are excerpts of the interview.
Can you shed more light on what you mean by you losing everything after your marriage break up?
When we were together, there are lots of things that happened, like we
share lots of things together. Then as an actor, I also work as a
clearing agent, sometimes, if I get a job maybe through Princess or any
other person, I have to give her, her own percentage and what I mean by
saying I lost everything, was the fact that when I was married, I
couldn’t do anything, there was no time for one to even go to location, I
was always indoor, I mean after the marriage break up, people started
mocking me, so I was to shy to go out, and it was really bad because
lots of them never supported my getting married to Princess, at the
first place. Saying the marriage will not work.
What were the reasons why they didn’t support you?
Maybe they know her more than I do but I thought everything will change
for good. We are from different background, and even when I started
complaining, I was advised to be patient, that things will change for
good. It was later that I realised that what my colleagues and senior
colleagues were saying, I could not control her was actually true, so
when we broke up, I couldn’t even go back to my family, location, I was
just all by myself.
Would it be right, to say you were depressed at that time?
Yes. I was depressed, and the things people were saying, that I married
her for money and fame, made everything really complicated for me, when
am working on the street, you hear people talking about me and pointing
fingers at me; so all those things really affected me, atimes, I will
stay indoor for a whole week without going out. Then, I saw lots of
things on blogs and newspapers.
Can you talk about the complains about Princess before you married her?
According to her, in some of her interviews when they ask her, why her
marriage crashed, she said irreconciliable differences I would not want
to go deep into somethings, I also believe in the industry lots of
people know her very well, the kind of person, she is, then compared to
the kind of man I am, they feel, I can’t control her.
What type of person is Princess?
She is a very nice person, but when it comes to her personal life, I
don’t think anybody can control her, and she is very temperamental, and
that has been my colleague fears concerning the marriage that I won’t be
able to manage her but I went ahead because I believe I am not perfect
too, so we should both be able to merge things up.
How long did you both date before getting married?
No, not really, when we met, we use to hang out together, and within 3 to 4 months the issue of marriage came up.
Which one of you brought out the idea of marriage?
I met Princess through Bola, who happens to be our mutual friend, and
Princess was very nice, till date, but it is just that, when she starts
her drama, she will be out of control. So we started dating and even
travelled together. She even visit me on location, at times if she is
not comfortable with the hotel they lodge us, she will change my hotel
to another one. After some months her younger sister got married, that
was on Valentine’s day of that year and she had already introduced me to
her mum and her younger sister Yetunde, so she told me that she wanted
me to be present at the wedding, so I went on Friday. After her sister’s
wedding, she came up with the idea, that we should get married too at
least, that we already know each other and whatever that is remaining,
we will learn in the marriage, so I feel, she is more exposed compared
to me, so we will not have problem in the marriage, and that was why I
agreed to everything she said, and we started planning the wedding,
within a short period, we got married.
So what really brought about the separation?
Right from the beginning, I told her I don’t want a flambouyant wedding,
but she insisted on having a big wedding, we started having issues when
she wanted to be in control of everything, she even tried to screen
people that I will relate with, so I told her that if you want to accept
me, you have to accept me with all i have, she treated my P.A Sikiru so
badly, she condemns everyone that comes around me, but I always
accommodate her people, when I started complaining, she promised to
change, and apologise, and anytime, we have any issue, she will just
start shouting, I am more of the reserved type, and that is why I have
never granted any interview, if the need arises, I will always refer
people to her. Even at times, when I get a script and will want to read
and digest the script, she will insist I come over and spend time with
her. At a point, I got really tired of everything and I was like, the
wedding plans should be put on hold, and learn more about each other,
she started crying that I want to disgrace her.
They had to call my elder brother to intervene, so I was like, okay, if
she still insist on the wedding arrangement, she brought the idea of
Aso-ebi, in other to carry my people along, I appointed a lady from my
church to sell to my people, and once she is done selling, she takes the
money back to Princess, along the line, the lady had issues with people
she sold clothes to and some were unable to pay, Princess took it on
me, until the case was resolved and I was vindicated. Also we had issues
in regards to the invites shared, I happened to be my church choir
cordinator, and my choristers wanted to come and even perform and as at
that time, there was no more enough invites for individual, so i told
them to write their names in a sheet of paper and I will attached it to
one invite and give it to the wedding planner so they can come in
convoy, so the wedding planner took it to Princess, and Princess said
no, she wouldn’t allow them, so I was like okay let’s wait and see what
will happen, the wedding day, I quickly went to get something, on my way
coming, the wedding planner called me that I need to iron that same
issue out with Princess, so that those people will not face any form of
embarrassment, so I called her to talk about the issue, she told me that
she is very busy, that I should go to my room, so I said okay.
The next morning, I left the hotel as early as 6am to go and get the
bride’s item at Ishaga, then the wedding planner called me not to forget
to iron the same issue out, so when I got back, I called her to settle
everything, she said food will not be enough, I told her not to bother
herself about that, she still insisted and said No, and that was when I
got angry, she said, if any guests is coming from my side, they should
come and take permission from her, before the person can get inside,
that really pissed me off, and I told her, that she can’t do that
except, she wants to get married to herself. I said those people are
coming and if you want to see the other side of me, don’t let them come
into the venue, I now stood up, to walk out, the next thing, she grabbed
my shirt from the back, tore everything the chain my friend bought for
me to use for the wedding, she destroyed everything including my inner
wear, that why should I say, if she is the true daughter of her mother.
Despite all she did, I didn’t touch her, I only removed her hands from
my clothes, I went to my room and locked myself up, her friends were
there, nobody supported her for her actions, she transferred the
aggression on Bola, that she was the one that linked us up, the lady was
crying and begging me, I locked myself up and promised not to go for
the wedding, lots of people came to talk and plead with me, even Ara,
also pleaded with me. I said no, later Mrs. Fashola called me on the
phone and said, she heard I was not at the venue of the wedding. that I
should go and also that she is almost there. That was when I decided to
go. I didn’t even bath, I just took my trouser, worn it and left. If you
go through all the pictures we took for the wedding, you will notice
that I was not happy at all. Even the day we went to registry, we still
had issues, Princess can make calls all day, I don’t complain, but that
morning, a friend called me and she started complaining that I received
calls, so many drama’s like that. her mother was at our house that
morning, at a point, she said, she was not going to the registry, I said
no problem, later I guess her mother spoke with her and that got
settled. There’s this particular problem Princess has, her mother
doesn’t see any fault in anything she is doing. When we got to the
registry, Mrs. Fashola’s younger sister called her and advise her that
she should respect her husband and also told that even she that her
elder sister is the wife of the Governor of Lagos State still bow and
respect her husband, so, she should be submissive. After all the drama
that happened, I told her, I was not going for any honeymoon, she had to
call our counsellor to talk to me, so I listened and we went for the
honeymoon even during the honeymoon, lots of things happened that I can
not even disclose. We went to Gambia, Ghana, after Ghana, we were
planning to go to U.K but because of what happened in Ghana, we were
suppose to spend one month in Ghana we ended up spending one week, lot
of things happened, and I don’t want it to look as if I want to spoil
her name, so, I won’t disclose, so I made up my mind to come back to
Nigeria, because if I misbehave in that place, they might arrest me. A
lot of things happened in our hotel room, so I decided, it is better for
us to come back home, which we did. A lot of people were surprised that
we came early, I had to lie to cover up. When we got back if I don’t
have anything doing, we can be indoor for a week, if I say I want to
visit my friends, she won’t allow one, except we go to Ozone Cinema
together, that is when I can go out, but one particular day, I told her,
I was going to barb my hair, afterwards choir practice, when I got
back, she started shouting that I went to see another woman.
She won’t allow any member of my family visit me but her mother has a
personal bedroom in our house, her sister stays with us, even when my
friends and colleagues visit me, she will say, I have to go and meet
them outside, they can’t come into our house. I had to go and host my
friends at eatery. When she got back from Ghana after our honeymoon, she
got pregnant, later she started having sharp pain after test, we
discovered it was ectopic pregnancy. All the drama continue one
particular night I drank on an empty stomach and the thing disturb me, I
realised the pain was unbearable, so I managed to my friend’s house and
the wife happened to be a nurse, treated me, I stayed in their house
althrough, my wife didn’t even bother to call, her attitude was so
unbearable for me, so when I got home the following morning I told her
to meet me up at her mum’s place. I called the mum, the next thing she
said I should not kill her daughter. I told the mum that I was not
interested in the marriage any longer, and Princess said, it’s just dawn
on her that I married her for fame and wealth, so I reminded her she
started with the whole wedding idea not me.
So she collected the keys to house from me, so I stayed with my friend
for two weeks, then she travelled out of the country to U.K and
displayed a picture of herself and a white guy holding themselves. So, I
removed my wedding band, later she got back apologised for everything,
she even invited me over for an event she was anchoring, initually I
said no, but after so much begging, I went, when I got there I met lots
of my colleagues in the industry there, like Iyabo Ojo, Niyi Johnson and
many others.
We talked, my uncle also interceeded and advised me to forget everything
that has happened and moved on, so I agreed. From there we both went
back home together, later on I discovered that I had toilet infection
because I stayed with my friend for 2 weeks before we settled again, and
their toilet was not good, so I got infected. She insisted we go for
general test, maybe I have sexually transmitted disease, I told her no
problem, she can pick any lab she wants and I will undergo any tests she
wants just to prove her wrong. At the end of it, it was confirmed at
the hospital that it was a toilet infection, I was treated and all the
while I was on treatment, we stayed away from each other and no sexual
relationship between us.
Due to the many drama that happened between us, she severe her
relationship with Bola, our mutual, at a point, Bola was producing a
movie and I was to cordinate the movie, Bola called me, that they will
soon start shooting the movie and they have not seen me yet, I had to
explain that Princess wasn’t feeling too fine and was even admitted at
the hospital, so she decided to come over just to greet her, while she
was sitted there, Princess sent a message to her phone, that she does
not want to see her again, so she stood up and left, I followed her to
ask her question, she explained everything to me, so I was really angry
and told her what she did was wrong, immediately she started shouting at
me at the hospital that I want to kill her, that I invited her enemy
over to kill her, the next minute, she instructed that they should call
in the security to bundle me out of the hospital, we ended up creating a
scene at the hospital, her mother was like, she is tired of the whole
marriage issue, that if we want to go our separate ways, we should go
instead of everyday drama, also that we should look at Funke Akindele,
she doesn’t have so much drama in her marriage.
From there I went to location, before I got back she already invited my
family members and told them that I infected her and that led to ectopic
pregnancy. I told her to bring all the test results and let us
calculate the time we started having sex, then it will be cleared that I
never infected, her major problem was the tampax she was using for her
menstrual period not me. Right in front of our family members, she said
she wants me to leave her life, and that was when I question her mother,
that why is she always in support of her daughter, even when she is at
fault, the next thing, she got angry, and said I can’t separate her from
her daughter, that I should go and ask of her at Ebute Metta, that she
will use bottle and break my head, I told her, she can’t try that,
immediately Princess called Panti Police Station that am threatening her
life, few minutes later 5 Policemen came, my family members interceeded
that it is a family issue and will be sorted out, so the Police left. I
told her to get a piece of paper write that she wants me to leave her
life and sign, which she did. I explained everything to my uncle, and he
said I should not walk out of the marriage.
Princess attends C.S (Ayoni Movement, and I attended Celestial Church,
we don’t go to the same, immediately they close from church, she will
start calling me that why is my service taking so long and I will be
like, you can’t keep controlling me, I will go home when am done. At a
point, she said I should join her in her church, I told her things are
not done that way. The main reason why I now decided to leave the
marriage was that, one particular night, after our normal argument in
the house, she stood to pick up something. I was just fortunate to look
at her direction, she was coming towards me with a knife, then I stood
up and ran, she started chasing me in the house to stab me she said, she
will kill me, and nobody will question her, because she is going to say
I was the one trying to kill her.
I narrowly escaped, first thing the next morning, I picked my
credentials and some vital items and left the house for her. After three
days she started calling, begging and crying that I should forgive her.
During our harvest, she came uninvited, I was on the stage singing me
money, she came and started spraying she humbled herself and greeted
people, that was one thing, she doesn’t do, so I was really surprised,
she also went to my Sherpherd to explain things to him and beg him to
talk to me, after the service, I saw her off, she asked when I will be
returning home, I told her, am not sure yet. Later, one of my cousin
called me from U.S, that she has been asking me questions concerning
Princess I will just say, everything is fine, but she is going to send
me a link to read through what Princess said, we are divorced, that I
use to beat her also, at a point I met Helen Paul while travelling out
of the country, and she said the same thing, that Princess said I use to
beat her. I was like Hellen Paul look at me very well, do I look or
have power to beat Princess, they started laughing. I told her I have
lots of my cloths that Princess torn in the process of fighting with me
as a prove, so if I walk out of the marriage now, I am justified.
How true was it that you impregnated someone and that led to your marriage break up?
That is not true at all, since I left the marriage, I have been single till date and nobody had any child for me.
What year did you both get married?
2013, May to be precise and everything plus courtship lasted 6 months. The marriage lasted for 6 weeks.
Would you say cyber bullying contributed to your break up?
No, that is the true, she is just trying to justify her actions. It’s
all lies if I had decided to be the wife in the marriage, then she will
take up the position of the husband, the marriage would have lasted. If I
can tolerate Princess till the day, she brought out knife, then I will
gladly say I tried.
What were the things that attracted you to her when you first met?
Well, I use to believe that two people from the same or similar industry
will understand each other more, and their marriage will last longer. I
also thought she will understand better because she is more exposed
compared to me, and most of her friends are male. They use to come to
our house then, stay, chat till late and I never complain or have
problem about that. But she dare not see me with anybody, not even my
male friends.
Will it be right to say your age differences also contributed to the break-up?
She is older than me, with a year, I was already aware of everything
before I agreed to the marriage. Our counsellor told her, she has ego
and wants to be in control of everything.
Have you both met after the broke up?
Yes, we met at the late Moji Olaiya’s artiste’s night, she was the one
that anchored the event. When I saw her I greeted her, she ignored me. I
didn’t push further, to avoid drama. Also later when I wanted to start
the divorce proceeding, I went to Ikoyi to get the wedding papers, later
I realised she already filed for a divorce and they have been looking
for me, because I stayed away from everybody when the marriage broke up
for like a year.
The lawyer said I need to call to get the proceeding started, I called
her, and she said if I want to talk to her, I need to come to her
lawyer’s office. We met at the lawyer’s office, and we were asked why we
wanted to disolve the marriage, I explained my part, the lawyer asked
her if all I said was true, she said yes, the lawyer told her, it was
very wrong to let her mum involve in our marriage, so the lawyer said,
there’s still room for reconciliation, if we are both ready. I told the
lawyer, I was willing to forgive and start all over again, if she is
ready to change.
I also asked for all my belongings in her possession, wedding suit and
all that, she said, she has sold everything because it was her money, I
used in buying them. All the money we were given for the wedding, was
kept in her account and she never gave me account of how she spent all
the money till date. So we started the divorce proceeding. Then I was
posted to Benin Republic for work while I was there, my MD was like I
should settle back with her, I explained everything that transpired
between us to him, he said now that we have separated for some years she
might have changed.
So I called her and we met at Unilag, we talked at length, I invited her
to my house, while the divorce was still going on. She insisted I speak
to a woman in her church, the woman prayed for us, and we started
seeing each other secretly again, we were told to keep it to ourselves.
We started seeing each other, throughout last year. I attended her
shows, she comes over to the Benin Republic to spend time with me as
well, and everything was normal. I left Benin on Wednesday and I told
her I will be in Nigeria on Saturday, I was at location from Wednesday,
then Saturday I called her up, we both went for her show, even Mandy
came, she recognised me and we told her, we are keeping it secret, Funke
too was these at the show. Then during the Easter programme, I was
supposed to take up a lesson at the church, she didn’t allow me go, I
stayed back just to satisfy her. Then Easter Sunday, she said I should
come to her place, I said I won’t be able to make it because I was
supposed to sing, and my picture was on the poster for the program. I
even sent the poster to her. When they even called us for the divorce
proceeding, we told them, we have settled. So that Easter Sunday I got
back in the evening on my way, I bought fruits and other things I
greeted her, she said I should not greet her because I didn’t come on
Sunday, I explained things again, the next thing, she started shouting
that I should leave her life, I was so surprised, I said I thought, you
have changed. It is better we face our divorce, I picked up my stuff and
left. On my way, I called the counsellor and the prophetess that prayed
for us, it was as if she already called the prophetess, immediately I
called, she advised me to move on with my life. So I wrote the court
that I won’t be able to be appearing for the proceedings because of the
nature of my job, but I accept everything she says concerning the
divorce.
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